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Fight the facts to justify habitual acts.
SPENDING HABITS
we agreed to speak with each other before big purchases were made. this same thing has happened over and over since that conversation. we discuss, agree to speak before purchase and then he buys with without the last step.
Boat
Bowling Ball
Herb
RULES DONT APPLY
all i asked for is to do what you say you are going to do. we are in the season of building trust and integrity.
he feels like he can change his mind if he feels like he dont want to do what ever was agreed upon based on his own choice outside the agreement. That's what justify the spending habits.
phycological manipulation
finds a right in a scenario and runs with it without going back to original situation
Fixer in this situation (co-dependency)? Context difference
Would have been wilding. he didn't wild in this situation. he didn't do me like the others??? he was explaining how he turns sour in relationships. how she will do something, he wilds out about go start acting up. that's "how it happens or is this how he creates the same story in every situation like this? well the FACTS of the story is he said when he found some text messages it started a chain reaction of thing. all i said was looks like it's what happened to this marriage. he went on to say so in the context of what he was saying. the scenario he described was not the case indeed WAS! the same foundational FACTS are the same in both scenarios with different context.
i cant stand to hear when i am wrong...
i told him i would take care the expenses when he was struggling to do so. that meant when he was lacking in providing I picked up the slack. to do that I have to work overtime. when i do that it takes away from what i can offer the house hold. i ASS U ME that since he was home more than he that he could pick up the at home while I picked up the finances. i reminded him of the conversation which is one of the most pivotal moments in our relationship to him in his words. me carrying the house. i said i would pull back from the chair and allow him to fill in the slack. he told me i dont like to be told im wrong for doing what I said i would do. hold the house down financially. he's able to sit home days and play video games and says he deals with me not cooking and doing the things I said i would do at the house BEFORE i became the bread winner. i was made to feel like i cant accept accountability in this senecio for speaking up for myself.
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